and now Saturday's Monday...great...
Hey mom and dad, I just want to sit down and talk about how you feel I am prepared for life, I feel like I need to talk to you two before I can make any decisions. If I were to go off on my own right now how do you think I'd do?
"Not well"
...ok...well...
'What are your plans Kyle? What are you even thinking of doing?
[Kyle's plans, hopes, and dreams...]
"What?!? that is the absolute worst thing that you could do! That is just stupid! Why would you do that?"
I was just thinking it's more in line with who I want to be and what I want to do.
The conversation turned out to be more of a lecture on my poor life choices, at least in their eyes. I am torn by this whole thing. I thought that my hopes and dreams are in line with what the spirit has taught me about who I am meant to be. What I am supposed to do. Who I am going to help. But when I talk to my parents about it as I've been prompted to multiple times I feel degraded by them and by myself. Are these thoughts really mine? Or are they a Higher Power's? And then why am I so driven to do such outlandish things? The conversation really hurt, and I have had to re-examine my motives and intents. Sometimes I guess we have to feel the pain at the beginning to avoid it at the end. Or is it that the pain comes at first to help you understand it as you go through the path.
I just want to know...Is this preparation for my path or is it a deterrent? But I guess that might be up to me.
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ReplyDeleteI do apologize for the spelling and grammar. I have work to do and this was not planed.Gods blessings and love to you and your parents.It s always fear.
ReplyDeleteThe question is first expectations from parents?!
Are theres in line with the spirit or is it just not how they see you!I I think it is great that you try to evaluate if you are following the path of God or where your place and that you ask your parents .You have not talked to me so I do not know what you told them about your place.Do your parents do the same evaluating the spirit? or are theire decisions and how they see you based on ego or does that just not fit into their life and the dream they have for you?A limited dream ? Well mom you had your live and I have mine my dreams and what God shows me is different. Would you please trust me and see me as who I am .Than I you would ask God for confirmation .I also would ask God to show my parents but do they want to listen I would ask to confirm them that they are wrong and hard hardend in many things(.
Parents are parents some are "christians and parents" some are christian parents who have understanding of God and his plan and accept that without any doudt others like to life their life through there children things they would do better or would not do.....fill it in.As for me my son is 13 and the other 14.we have a great trustworthy relationship which is based on biblical principals and God first. I argue with him ones in a while but I want to life with him and have him on my side and what ever seems hard may not be hard anymore when we do what God tell us too.You have great parents they must have no prayed.
when my children come to me and tell me about their dreams and what they want to do than I encoursge them to live their dream it may be like a nightmare for me because I do not know better or it may be out of my understanding but God does and thats in whom I trust .Because my mind maybe limited filled with whatever which would pollute my sons dreams and it is not about me as a mother or my happines it is about my sons the holly ghost and Jesus first. If my sons are happy than Im too if they should fall than I will pick them up withoiut a comment because thats than the last thing they need.if he wants to and I cry with them if necessary.. but having the trust that my sons will walk with God this path and God helps to get what ever is needed.To get stronger in things i may see them week ( which can be right or wrong. Parents destroy often the will of God and dreams ...can come tru. I would again make sure that your parents walk in the spirit and not in their own counsel.My fear If I would do what your parent have done would be that my children would not ask me anymore and that I would loose my sons trust and openes telling me about his ways.Because he may not do that again ---consequences !The doudt I may place in their minds may bring what I fea trmost not tho have them come anymore. between them and me and God .I trust my children good advice is always good and it hurts when they do wrong.But it also hurts when we do wrong. and allbecaus ei may ahve not asked God before.It always hurts .My biggest nightmare would be not to see the real you of my children the love the charcter the kindness the talents they have ..... God has accomplished .It is always good to pray before this kind of conversations and to invite God.
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ReplyDeleteI do apologize for the spelling and grammar. I have work to do and this was not planed. Gods blessings and love to you and your parents.It s always fear.
ReplyDeleteThe question is first expectations from parents?
Are they in line with the spirit or is it just not how they see you ! I think it is great that you try to evaluate if you are following the path of God or where your place is and that you ask your parents .Do your parents do the same, evaluating the spirit? Or are their decisions based and how they see you or does your view of life just not fit into their life and the dream they have for you? I would say :”Well mom you had your life which I think you made the best of it for you and us . I have mine my dreams and God’s dream for me may be different . Would you please trust me and see me as who I am and I understand that you want me to have a better life or an easier start than you had but I do- for I have God and I have you as example who made out of me this person who cares more for others and I know my reward will be great. Than I you would ask God for confirmation .I also would ask God to show my parents… but do they want to listen? I would ask God to show them where they are wrong and me where I am wrong or even heard hardened in many things and I do not want to just live the worldly way for this life is short and fleading .I may be dead tomorrow would you feel good about our conversation would God be pleased in the way we handled that ?
Parents are parents some are "Christians and Parents" some are Christian Parents that’s a big difference -who have understanding of God and his plan and accept that without any doubt and trust him .. Others like to live their life through their children ….As for me my son is 13 and the other 14 we have a great trustworthy relationship which is based on biblical principles and God first and Jesus . I argue with them ones in a while but I want h them trusting me knowing that their mom counsels with God and what ever seems hard may not be hard anymore when we do what God tell us too even if it would be . You have great parents they must have not have prayed.
When my children come to me and tell me about their dreams and what they want to do than I encourage them to live their dreams it may be like a nightmare for me because I do not know better or it may be out of my understanding but God knows and that’s in whom I trust .Because my mind maybe limited filled with what would pollute my sons dreams and it is not about me as a mother or my happiness it is about my sons the holy ghost and Jesus first. If my sons are happy than I’m too and I’m not talking about living a life in sin ( for I do not think that Kyle was talking about that) if they should fall than I will pick them up without a comment because that’s the last thing they need if he wants too and I cry with them if necessary but having the trust that my sons will walk with God this path and God helps to get what ever is needed and above . To get stronger in things I may see them week ( which can be right or wrong) Parents destroy often the will of God . I would again make sure that your parents walk in the spirit and not in their own counsel. My fear if I would do what your parent have done would be that my children would not ask me anymore and that I would lose my sons trust and openness telling me about their s ways because they may not do that again ---consequences !The doubt and the poisons thoughts I may place in their minds may bring what I fear most not to have them come to me anymore. .I trust my children good advice is always good and it hurts when they do wrong. But it also hurts when we do wrong and all because I may have not asked God before. It always hurts .My biggest nightmare would be not to see the real you of my children their potential the love the character the kindness the talents they have .....what God has and can accomplish .It is always good to pray before this kind of conversations.